Wednesday, 28 December 2016

It's all in the mind

Yes they say it & so much is inside my head too. We never see the world the way it is but the way we are. I argue with my husband a lot. We fight almost every day. He has his own opinions & I have my own. According to me he is wrong & I'm always right. Well,that's not an issue because this is what is inside my head & it's  perfectly alright to be right all the times. I still love him so much & the differences between us brings us even more closer to each other.

Anyways, I was talking about "mind" & "the stuff inside it". It's true that we see our projection in another person. We can never dare to judge our own self so we start blame game & titling others on the basis of our own experiences.

How do I look? What does she think about me? Will people laugh at me? These are not just questions but fear inside our minds that has captivated us all. Nobody bothers what others are doing cos everyone is busy earning,busy building their dream homes,planning a child,etc.

What others say about me has nothing to do with me. I've always lived a non-bounded life & whatever I need,for that, I usually go to my place of meditation & ask the Almighty. There used to be days when I was dissatisfied with my life,unhappy with people around me but a day came when I realised that every moment I suffered was because of me & in no time I then realised that everything was inside my head. I came to know that the real happiness lies inside my own heart & it's only me who can my own self contented & happy.

It's those unstoppable thoughts that create a situation favourable or unfavourable in front of us. We humans have the power to choose. It's up to us to choose a pearl or garbage from this world. Learn to choose not only good people in your life but good thoughts as well. Make your own choices, follow your dreams,don't look back. Exercise a lot,drink lots of water,run as much you can,explore your own self. This is what life is. Never underestimate yourself. Believe but believe hard. I know everything is possible & everyone can do it because it's all in the mind.
Good luck! Merry Christmas! Happy New Year!

Wednesday, 21 December 2016

Life after marriage

Today I'm excited to write my "life after marriage" story. Not many people know that I was never too happy whenever question of my marriage used to pop up. People around me only knew that I'm 26 & so I must settle asap.
My father had given me all the freedom & I had all the liberties to do whatever I wished. I had my own car, I had a job, I could spend as much I wanted, I was free to wake up anytime I wanted. I had my opinions & I had my anger too. I was a pampered child of my family. But at the same time I knew what I was supposed to do & what I wasn't.

Over the few years we got modernised,we started spending more than before,we had new cars but "Love marriage" was still a taboo in my family. Having a joint family of 18 members,we 9 cousins had our own rivalries but we still have a great bonding & love for each other.

Anyways, I was talking about my "life after marriage". Like any other girl, I too had dreams of a "prince charming". I used to imagine a very perfect life with my Prince. Even while I was awake I used to dream & get lost from the real world & one fine day I got married & this real world gave me a jerk & shouted "wake up!wake up!".

When I reached my new home I met new people, I witnessed new "rasams", new traditions & of course new locality. My life took a complete 360 degrees turn.
Life was not too juicy after marriage because people have a lot of "expectations" from especially new daughter-in-law. Life wasn't very smooth in the new place. I used to miss my parents,my job & my car. But there was this one man who stood by me through my thick and thin. He caressed me every time If i was in any problem.Time passed & I gradually started learning new things. I'm living a very contented & happy life with my new family.

There couldn't have been a better day than my husband's birthday to speak out my heart to him. He was like a pillar support throughout the time. He used to surprise me,give me hugs, & above all he believed in me. On 24th December is his first birthday after our marriage & I wanted him to know that he is loved by me to the infinity.

This real world may be harsh but he is the one who didn't let my myth break. After marrying him I believed in my dreams even more because I married my "Prince charming"  & I love my parents even more as they found him for me.
My "life after marriage" together with him got more lively & exciting. I still dream creamy & now I'm a pampered wife.